An Almost Love
An almost love, why does it hurt more than an actual break-up with the person you do love? That is a question most of us ask ourselves. What is an almost love, though? It's when you develop a passionate relationship with someone and they fool you into thinking it is something real. This will frequently cause a person's heart to break, and it will haunt them. When it's over, you think about them all the time but the person forgets about you and continues on with their life. The person sometimes will move on to be with someone else. I can say this has happened to me on more than one occasion, with the almost loves that have entered into my life. The person is either fearful of commitment, or they are just an insensitive jerk in general. These represent some men I have entered into contact within the last few years.
How do you move on from an almost love? You gather yourself together and forget about them. Gain confidence in recognizing you deserve better than this. Not a person in this world deserves your tears. My own advice I should have taken. If I had, it wouldn't be therefore hard to move on from the person and their actions. People are just really great at fooling you, though. They know exactly what to do to convince you of desiring them. The one thing you should gather to comprehend is this; their actions possess nothing to do with you. The actions are something to do with what they are dealing with on the inside of their souls.
The one thing people often don't take into consideration is how their actions will affect that person. It will cause trust and commitment issues for them down the road. After being burned too many times, a person will begin to be afraid of establishing anything new with someone. In today's society, people have become more unkind and don't maintain a passionate relationship. Why waste not only your time but that person's time in getting to learn them. When in the first place you had no intention of falling for them genuinely. It would save someone heartbreak in the end. All we request for is, merely provide a considerate heart.
The other thing you have to consider is perchance the person altogether didn't desire you but they were afraid to assure you. Ordinarily, when a man or woman knows you represent goodness. They will be terrified to break your heart by confessing the truth to you. Every so often it is extremely hard to detect in someone but when you feel like the person genuinely admires you. Conceivably this was his or her way of saying, "Hey, I merely don't like you more than just a friend now." It is not always a negative situation and we do need to stop looking at it all from a negative perspective.
The moral of the lesson we all should learn is, just be honest in the beginning. If you are conscientious about how you genuinely feel then it will prevent that person from getting hurt. Let the woman or man you are seeing at the present time know you aren't interested anymore. Don't continue keeping them there until you find a new person then decide to walk away without an explanation. It is true no one should explain anything. When you are romantically involved with a person then decide they aren't for you. You are absolutely responsible for owing that person an explanation. What will happen is the truth will eventually come out and that person is left with many questions running through their mind about your sincere intentions towards them. It will still hurt but it will not hurt as bad as finding out why you abandoned them. We all need to join and disrupt this cycle in this generation. I sincerely believe there will repeatedly be that one woman or man who perpetuates this cycle, though. I also believe it can be broken by more people who rightly want a genuine and proper relationship with someone.
I am a woman with many great qualities to offer a man. I often wonder when the "almost love" will stop coming into my life and the one for me will finally arrive. It has been a question of my own for quite some time. The one thing that has aided me to move forward after a person has altered their mind about me. That is to just forgive, no one deserves your time devoted dwelling over them and why they chose the following man or woman to be with. You both were just a part of each other's story, just walk away with a practical mind and heart. Absolutely tell yourself, "If it didn't work out for us now then what causes me to think it will on down the road." Sometimes the "almost love" is just a blessing from God. I truly believe there is someone out there for us all. We only just have to go through the terrible ones until our person definitely arrives. Remember you want an honest love, not an almost love. Just be patient, work on your life, get your heart right and don't settle until you finally meet.
-The Vintage Writer
How do you move on from an almost love? You gather yourself together and forget about them. Gain confidence in recognizing you deserve better than this. Not a person in this world deserves your tears. My own advice I should have taken. If I had, it wouldn't be therefore hard to move on from the person and their actions. People are just really great at fooling you, though. They know exactly what to do to convince you of desiring them. The one thing you should gather to comprehend is this; their actions possess nothing to do with you. The actions are something to do with what they are dealing with on the inside of their souls.
The one thing people often don't take into consideration is how their actions will affect that person. It will cause trust and commitment issues for them down the road. After being burned too many times, a person will begin to be afraid of establishing anything new with someone. In today's society, people have become more unkind and don't maintain a passionate relationship. Why waste not only your time but that person's time in getting to learn them. When in the first place you had no intention of falling for them genuinely. It would save someone heartbreak in the end. All we request for is, merely provide a considerate heart.
The other thing you have to consider is perchance the person altogether didn't desire you but they were afraid to assure you. Ordinarily, when a man or woman knows you represent goodness. They will be terrified to break your heart by confessing the truth to you. Every so often it is extremely hard to detect in someone but when you feel like the person genuinely admires you. Conceivably this was his or her way of saying, "Hey, I merely don't like you more than just a friend now." It is not always a negative situation and we do need to stop looking at it all from a negative perspective.
The moral of the lesson we all should learn is, just be honest in the beginning. If you are conscientious about how you genuinely feel then it will prevent that person from getting hurt. Let the woman or man you are seeing at the present time know you aren't interested anymore. Don't continue keeping them there until you find a new person then decide to walk away without an explanation. It is true no one should explain anything. When you are romantically involved with a person then decide they aren't for you. You are absolutely responsible for owing that person an explanation. What will happen is the truth will eventually come out and that person is left with many questions running through their mind about your sincere intentions towards them. It will still hurt but it will not hurt as bad as finding out why you abandoned them. We all need to join and disrupt this cycle in this generation. I sincerely believe there will repeatedly be that one woman or man who perpetuates this cycle, though. I also believe it can be broken by more people who rightly want a genuine and proper relationship with someone.
I am a woman with many great qualities to offer a man. I often wonder when the "almost love" will stop coming into my life and the one for me will finally arrive. It has been a question of my own for quite some time. The one thing that has aided me to move forward after a person has altered their mind about me. That is to just forgive, no one deserves your time devoted dwelling over them and why they chose the following man or woman to be with. You both were just a part of each other's story, just walk away with a practical mind and heart. Absolutely tell yourself, "If it didn't work out for us now then what causes me to think it will on down the road." Sometimes the "almost love" is just a blessing from God. I truly believe there is someone out there for us all. We only just have to go through the terrible ones until our person definitely arrives. Remember you want an honest love, not an almost love. Just be patient, work on your life, get your heart right and don't settle until you finally meet.
-The Vintage Writer
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